Being an Armchair __________

I like football. I mean I really like football.
And I can be quite the critical football fan. When my team is down or when they lose a game it is quite easy for me to sit in my home and confidently proclaim what they could have done to ride to victory. From my living room I can clearly see where the coaches called a bad play, how the quarterback did not see what I saw from my lazy-boy, or what was a clear path to imminent victory.
To put it mildly, I am an armchair quarterback.
But my armchair quarterbacking does not end with sports. I am also extremely good at raising other people's kids. As I watch other people's children and their interactions with them I know exactly what they need to do to get their children on the right track to obedience. I know what "I" would do if "I" were them.
In addition, I am surprisingly good at pastoring other people's churches. I know the direction that they need to go and the ministries that they need to implement in order to be all that God desires their church to be.
As a matter of fact, I generally excel in knowing exactly what others need to do to succeed in life, family, business, and nearly every other facet of their existence.
And I think that the reason that I am so good at these things is because I am not actually in their shoes. I do not walk where they walk. This means that I do not know all of the situations and facts and extenuating circumstances that make up their life and shape their decisions. This kind of armchair living breeds a hyper-critical spirit and judgmentalism that lacks grace and that is surely not pleasing to the Lord.
This revelation in my life (I hope) will cause me to be more charitable to others. To dispense "the benefit of the doubt" when I can. To try and see things from other angles and other vantage points and not rush to judgment. And I hope it will cause me to be more forgiving and more loving toward others.
More than anything it drives me to the grace of God in Jesus Christ where I experience forgiveness and where that forgiveness can serve as God's standard for me to dispense to others (Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13).
And besides, everybody knows that armchair quarterbacks could not ever truly be quarterbacks anyway!